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Please Let Me Mourn  / Lesli Messinger (Mother)

I've never lost a child before, I don't understand all these emotions I am
feeling. Will you try and understand and help me?


I may act and appear together, but I am not. Often times it hurts so much I
can hardly bear it.


Don't expect too much of me. I will try to help you know what I can and
cannot handle. Sometimes I am not always sure.


Let me talk about my child. I need to talk. It's part of the healing. Don't
pretend nothing has happened. It hurts terrible when you do. I love my child
very much and my memories are all I have now. They are very precious to me.


Sometimes I cry and act differently, but it's all part of grieving, my tears
are necessary and needed and should not be held back. It even helps when you
cry with me. Please don't fear my tears.


What I need most is your friendship, your sympathy, your prayers, your
support and your understanding love. I am not the same person I was before
my child died and I will never be. Hopfully we can all grow from this shared


God gives me strength to face each day and the hope that I will survive with
His help and yours.
Time will heal some of the pain, but there will always be an empty place in
my heart

Please let me mourn and thank you for helping me through the most diffcult
time of my life.

"Author Unknown"

Times Like These - Foo Fighters  / Lesli Messinger (Mother)

I am a one way motorway
I’m the one that drives away
Then follows you back home
I am a street light shining
I’m a wild light blinding bright
Burning off alone

It’s times like these you learn to live again
It’s times like these you give and give again
It’s times like these you learn to love again
It’s times like these time and time again

I am a new day rising
I'm a brand new sky
To hang the stars upon tonight
I am a little divided
Do I stay or run away
And leave it all behind?

It’s times like these you learn to live again
It’s times like these you give and give again
It’s times like these you learn to love again
It’s times like these time and time again 


We Remember Them  / Donna Schotten (Friend to his Nani and his mother )
The pain from losing a loved one can be the most severe suffering one ever endures. Durng the time of Grief, we must go through the pain; we may not understand and we are always asking "Why"---Grief can be so powerful--but it is Normal. Everyone's grief is unique and everyone's grief is the same.  I am praying for the family and friends touched by Austin during his life. You have been blessed by the memories and things you have learned from Austin. Celebrate his life in your memories of him. We can not touch him or see him, but we can always feel him in our heart and our spirt!
Love from Donna

In the rising of the sun and in its going down, we remember them.
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter, we remember them.
In the opening of buds and in the rebirth of spring, we remember them.
In the blueness of the sky and in the warmth of summer, we remember them.
In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn, we remember them.
In the beginning of the year and when it ends, we remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength, we remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart, we remember them.
When we have joys we yearn to share, we remember them.
So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us, as we remember them. 

I'm Free  / Tammy P. Justin's Mom


Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God had laid, you see
I took His hand when I heard His call
I turned my back and left it all
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work, to play
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I found peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joys
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
Oh yes, these things I too will miss
Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow
My life's been full, I savored much
Good friends, Great times, A loved one's touch
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief
Lift up your hearts and peace to thee
God wanted me now, He set me free.

Author Unknown

May memories comfort you  / Charlene Paradise
Dear Lesli and Family, My heart goes out to you.  Your precious Austin gone too soon from this world.   Though we may never be the same again, hopefully in time, all the wonderful memories have will be enough to sustain us till we meet our beautiful children again.....
You are not alone, we are bound by our loss and may we always find comfort in knowing there are many supportive people who care.  God Bless~

Some say LOVE means never saying your sorry.
I say LOVE means never saying goodbye.............   

Condolences / Joseph DiLuigi (Friends,son.)  Read >>
Condolences / Joseph DiLuigi (Friends,son.)
Hi LesliI'd like to offer my condolences.You're a wonderful person Lesli and I Hope you are surrounded by family and people who love you .Friends forever Joe Close
With Deepest Sympathy  / Susan Moore Fannin (friend)  Read >>
With Deepest Sympathy  / Susan Moore Fannin (friend)

I was so sorry to learn of your lost.  Although some time has past I  am sure it is still difficult- I will keep you all in my prayers.

From Kenton's mom  / Susi Easter (no relation )  Read >>
From Kenton's mom  / Susi Easter (no relation )

Austin was a friend of my son's. Kenton attended that wonderful party at the farm in his memory and had a great time.

I did not know Austin personally, but being the mother of a young adult son who likes to live dangerously, I know what it's like to constantly worry and cannot imagine losing my son. Austin's death hit me hard because I know it could happen to any of us.

I just want to say to you, Lesli, I like what you are doing. I am not into politics at all, but for you to do your best to bring the health care issues to light is a wonderful thing.  It is healing for you, and you need to heal. Your writings are lovely, by the way. You have a gift for writing  to match your gift for art. Continue to use your gifts to share your grief. It's the best thing you can do for yourself.

I do hope you get out of New Jersey! I was there for Christmas in 2004  with a friend and found it to be just the way you so eloquently described it. It's a depressing place and I don't care if I never go back.   You are a country girl with city class. I hope you find your way back home, but if you keep doing what you are doing, I know you will be okay wherever you are.

Thanks for sharing with all of us!

Thinking of you during this tough time . . . . .  / Aunt Jill (Aunt)  Read >>
Thinking of you during this tough time . . . . .  / Aunt Jill (Aunt)

May you find peace in your loss.  Love to Ryan, Lesli, Mike, Grandma and Grandma Barthen, Grandma Lily, and all the other family members that helped to shape Austin into the wonderful young man he was. 

Austin, I can imagine that you are fishing for the big ones! Close
for Austin  / Nancy Davis   Read >>
for Austin  / Nancy Davis

So sorry for your loss  / Nancy Davis   Read >>
So sorry for your loss  / Nancy Davis
I am so sorry for your loss.  I went to school with Austin's Aunt Tina and his dad Mike.  I remember when I found out that Austin had died.  My heart broke for the family.  My son had died on June 8, 2005.  Please know that Austin and his family have been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be.

"Together we can make it!"
Nancy Davis
Mother's Day  / Lesli Messinger (Mother)  Read >>
Mother's Day  / Lesli Messinger (Mother)
God bless the grieving Mother.......

In January as the snows fall...

And as a New Year dawns...

For her memories will comfort her...

Through Winter, Spring, Summer, & Fall.

God bless the grieving Mother......

In February during the month of love...

She sends her hugs on the wings of a dove...

And her kisses are blown to the moon above.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

In March and on St. Patrick's Day...

A beautiful rainbow..a symbol of hope...

Which colors her world in a magical way.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

On Passover in April as she stops to pray...

Thanking God for His Gifts of everlasting life...

Knowing she will be reunited someday.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

On Mother's Day & thru the month of May...

Whose memories are like threads of gold...

For they will never tarnish - or go away.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

In June as her tears fall like rain...

Please comfort her & give her strength...

And beautiful days to help ease the pain.

God bless the grieving Mother......

In July as the fire works light up the sky afar...

Just like her memories light up her heart...

And she wishes upon an evening star.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

In August as the sun shines through...

Who's life moves on, thru ups and downs...

Whose heart is So tender & true.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

In September as the leaves turn & fall...

Her child's life forever etched in her heart...

Her child's name entered on the memorial wall.

God Bless the grieving Mother.....

In October with the harvest colors all around...

Please guide her on her journey of grief...

And keep her safe & sound.

God bless the grieving Mother......

In November - a time to give thanks & pray...

Whose so thankful for each precious memory...

But wishes with all her heart for just 'one more day'.

God bless the grieving Mother.....

In December as Holidays nears...

Please bless her with the gift of peace...

And many great friends to help her dry her tears.

God bless the grieving Mother......

Each day through the year...

As seasons come & Go & time unfolds...

Day by day...
Month by month...
Year by year...
Especially today....Mother's Day!!!!!!!!! Close
Thinking of Austin  / Linda-GN Mom2Dawn&Laurie4ever (friend of Mom )  Read >>
Thinking of Austin  / Linda-GN Mom2Dawn&Laurie4ever (friend of Mom )

Light a Candle

Light a candle for those we mourn
Into a new life they will be born.
Do not look for them at the grave site.
They are somewhere else radiating their beautiful light.
They have gone to a new world where there is no 
darkness, no pain.
Their light and essence will always remain.
Light a candle for those who have left this mortal place.
They are free to travel through time and space.
When we think of them, they are near.
When we sit in a beautiful garden. Their voices we hear.
When we listen to a divine symphony,
We close our eyes, their faces we see.
Light a candle for they have not really gone.
With each flickering flame, in your hearts they will always belong.
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